I was surprised at a client question last week – the woman was in her late twenties. It
was a simple question really – but getting the answer wrong would definitely mean
the difference between her possibly getting pregnant quickly and not conceiving.
Getting pregnant involves having sperm in the fallopian tubes around the time an egg
released during female ovulation is entering the tube from the other end.
Having this occur involves a basic understanding of human anatomy, physiology and
My client’s question, as I said, was simple…. “Does my cycle begin on the first day
of my period or the first day after bleeding stops?”
It’s easy for those in the know to get a bit ‘uppity’ when they read something like this,
but far better to direct that energy to informing those who might be missing out on the
joys of parenthood essentially because they’ve received an incorrect response to their
question when they were younger, and have been progressing through life illinformed.
The female cycle commences on the first day of menstruation. In other words, the
first day of bleeding is Day 1 of the menstrual cycle.
For this post I’d like to use that ‘simple question’ as a metaphor for so many issues
surrounding people facing fertility issues.
For several years now I’ve worked closely with couples trying desperately to
conceive. Some had undergone multiple rounds of IVF – one fell pregnant on their
eleventh round. I’ll relate some of their stories in future posts.
For now, sufficient to say that several of my clients were facing ‘unexplained
infertility’. Perhaps you are as well.
‘Unexplained infertility’ is a term used by doctors to explain the circumstance where
a couple cannot conceive despite their being no apparent physiological reason for the
lack of conception.
No physiological reason, perhaps, but as I’ve discovered in my work, quite possibly
psychological reasons. Perhaps complex psychological reasons like the effects of far
too much stress for far, far too long. Maybe even the often extreme stress associated
with simply wanting to get pregnant yet having difficulty achieving that.
Or maybe some apparently minor psychological reason such as some clients have
discovered immediately before they became pregnant. My point however, is
successful clients are happy to ask questions, and have questions asked – about the
things that might be contributing to their fertility challenges.
Like the case of our client at the start of this post – the correct answer to a question
about which some might believe the answer is blindingly obvious …and some might
even scoff at your asking…..might really make the difference. And that difference
could open the gate to conception.
Until next post “fiat lux– et graviditas” – Let there be light – and pregnancy!